Today we’re once again bridging theory and practice with some audio advice on questions related to giving, gratitude, and the underappreciated sensitivity of social connectivity over the holidays.
The first question comes from Bella in Washington:
I give gifts regularly to friends and family for the holidays and other special occasions, but I’m never sure if they’re appreciated. Should I keep giving them anyway? How can you tell if someone is grateful for something and it’s worth the effort? Of note: not all of these gifts are reciprocated in kind, which is fine, but should that be my litmus test for appreciation — a reciprocal gift?
I offer three options for Bella to try. Have a listen and see if you agree. Perhaps offer other solutions you’ve tried in the comments.
The second question comes from Chris in New England:
I know this isn’t reality, but I can’t help but feel that everyone seems to be part of a close family with traditions and endless plans over the holidays. Even amongst my friends whose families are extremely dysfunctional, they all have places to be and people to be with. I don’t. I’m single, don’t have kids, and am not close to my family / don’t travel to see them over the holidays. So it feels like a really isolating time. I try to keep busy with projects and hobbies, but it’s hard to escape the depressing solitude. Any advice?
It’s unfortunate that this is not a topic we discuss more openly. We too often think that only the sick or elderly feel isolated during the holidays, when in fact upwards of two-thirds of people report feeling lonely at some point over the holidays — so why aren’t we talking about this and, more importantly, what can we do about? I offer some advice for both those with an abundance of social togetherness and those feeling isolated. As always, I welcome your thoughts.
p.s. Submit your favorite holiday tunes — popular and obscure, originals and remakes — for inclusion in our holiday playlist by Monday, Dec. 16!
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